Wasn’t Baby Barb adorable? Honestly, she was such a blast as a baby, however, here’s a small secret—-Barb Barb did not sleep through the night until she was OVER a year old. No joke.
It was absolutely exhausting. I don’t think I’ve ever been that tired in my entire life. And, if I am being completely honest with you, I have to say that thinking back to that first year of life, as amazing as it was, I think has a lot to do with the reason why Justin and I didn’t go off and have more children shortly after Barb was born.
I feel like the odd man out in most situations, as most people have their children pretty close in age. Most of Barb’s classmates have siblings, and most of them are a within a couple years in age of one another. Most assume that Justin and I only wanted one child, but honestly speaking, that was never the case.
The thought of going through the whole pregnancy thing again, and then having a child who didn’t sleep for an entire year, thus translating to me not sleeping for an entire year, I’ll be honest, I think that sort of pushed the whole “have another baby” thing out of my head for a long while. The idea of working a full time job and taking care of a baby when you’ve had a total of 4 hours of sleep—interrupted sleep that is, is somewhat terrifying to me.
Just now have I actually opened to the idea of actually having another baby. I would love to have more Barb’s or whatever the male version of Barb would be. Howard, maybe?
Anyways, ironically, Justin and I were talking about this the other day, and then I got an e-mail from a company called The Baby Sleep Site. Immediately, I went to write back to explain that I wouldn’t be a good person to talk about babies as I don’t have any.
As I always do, I checked out their website, and perused around for a bit. The first thing I saw when I landed on their page was “Helping you and your child sleep.” I reminisced back to all the nights sitting in Barb’s room feeding her, being woken up four minutes after I’d fallen asleep and about HOW badly I wanted to throw that baby monitor out the window. I think the day I donated my baby monitors to Good Will was one of the happiest days of my adult life. You know, just after childbirth, and maybe, my wedding day..
The thing was, when Barb was a baby, I followed the books. I tried the “cry it out method” and that lasted about 2 minutes as it killed my heart to hear her wailing in the other room, I tried co-sleeping to no avail because hearing her make ANY noise made me jolt awake thinking I’d maybe rolled on top of her. I read A LOT, but nothing worked- so, we just didn’t sleep for 14 months. No biggie.
What I’ve learned is that there is no RIGHT way to train your baby to sleep through the night. Every parent is different, and most of all, every CHILD is different. We all have different parenting methods and things that we are and are not comfortable doing. There is no ONE book that has the answer for each individual parent and child.
The Baby Sleep Site actually details the varying options between the cry-it-out method and the no-cry sleep solutions. Furthermore, that often times, for children, sometimes you have to use a little of this and a dash of that.
For me, when I had Barb, I tried two things that I’d read in books. I tried the co-sleeping deal, and I tried the cry-it-out method. Neither of those worked, so we were awake for the majority of 2008. Had I known that there were different options available, maybe I’d have less gray hair and crows feet.
Barb clearly had her own temperament, as do all children. Obviously, this is abundantly clear now as a seven year old. Barb is Barb and had I known the importance of considering Barb’s stellar temperament as a baby, maybe I would have slept more than 36 hours the first year and a half after her birth.
As Barb aged, her sleeping patterns adjusted. Through toddlerhood, she actually slept pretty well, but she did have bumps where she’d have sporadic disruptions to her normal sleep schedule, and I’d find her hanging out in the guest room across the hall from her room with a container of cheese puffs.
…or in the bathroom doing her make-up….
You know, it’s funny, my mom always joked about how much things had changed when I was pregnant with Barb when we’d be shopping for baby items; really though, things are constantly evolving. If I had another baby now, I wouldn’t even know WHERE to start with all the items they have on the market. I can, however, tell you that I’d definitely keep this website bookmarked on my phone, tablet, computer, and stuck to my forehead if and when we decide to give baby number 2 a go.
So, my friends with babies, toddlers, and kids like Barb who hate to sleep, I highly, HIGHLY, recommend checking out The Baby Sleep Site. They have a ton of FREE resources for parents of infants, babies, and toddlers.
If you are having issues with your child and sleeping, I have a fun giveaway to offer you. First, you will receive a $25.00 Amazon gift card, and second, you will receive a three month free pass to the “Members Area” of The Baby Sleep Site.
This site is legit, and surely something I wished was around when my “Nocturnal Barb” was younger.
To enter to win the $25.00 Amazon gift card and a 3 month free pass to the Members Area of The Baby Sleep Site, please leave me a comment with your first and last name—andddddd…you all know how much I LOVEEEEEE baby pictures, so if you want to leave me a comment with a photo of your adorable little one, please do!
Barb and I will pick the winner on October 29th!
Rules for entry: Must be 18+ years or older, Comment must be left so I have your first and last name for the drawing!
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