6 Types of People You Don’t Need In Your Life:
Some of life’s greatest gifts are the relationships you form throughout your years on Earth.
It’s always good to have a friend who understands you inside out and upside down, or a family member who understands your humor and can laugh with you during the good times and bad.
Friends and family members who recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and go out of their way to lift you up where you need it most are the best.
However, I realized at age thirty-two that there are some people you don’t need in your life.
People You Don’t Need In Your Life:
1. The One-Upper: Everyone knows these people. No matter how good or bad things are going in your life- they’ve experienced far better/worse than you.
“Oh, you’re having financial troubles? Well, we don’t have a penny in savings after we purchased our new beach house, and it’s just ruining everything for us. We were really looking forward to renovating our master bathroom, but yeah that really sucks you can’t afford to pay your rent and you lost your health insurance. We can’t even afford our regular family “Filet Mignon Friday” and it’s been really troubling to our emotional stability as a family.”
2. The Person Who Always Reminds You That They Have a Higher Education Than You:
“When I was in grad school, you know, because I have a PhD in Underwater Basketweaving, we ate Top Ramen every night…because you know, I didn’t attend a “party school” like you did- I went to a REAL university, and as you know, I have a PhD, NOT a Bachelor’s or an Associates degree.”
I’m so glad that you have a PhD in Underwater Basketweaving or Astrophysics, but what the hell does that have to do with our current conversation about our favorite Trader Joe’s appetizers?
3. The “Know It All Nellie”:
“No. No. That’s not true. I know I live in Spain and the IRS doesn’t take any money out of my paycheck—because you know, I live in another country, but I know that you are wrong. That is wrong—- your accountant must be mistaken.”
Yes, please tell me more about how the IRS is wrong. Actually, no, please don’t— why don’t you give them a call and try to figure out this mess for me?!
4. People Who Use Their Financial Status As a Means to Defining Themselves:
“Well, we were going for the BMW, but the newer model doesn’t have the same sized logo on the front of the car as earlier models. I mean, clearly we don’t want a USED car, so we opted to go with the Bentley— I mean, everyone takes a person driving a Bentley seriously. And really, who should be driving up to the country club in anything less than a Bentley!? We don’t want people thinking we are poor, lazy individuals! Did I tell you I got this awesome, new Louis Vuitton handbag? There was one on the clearance rack, but I passed on that one because it had a scratch on it and I didn’t want anyone thinking that I couldn’t afford the full-priced version. Oh, and these sunglasses are Tom Ford.”
Wait, you stole a man’s sunglasses? Who is Tom Ford? Stealing is wrong.
5. People Who Are Older Than You, Therefore Will Always Know Better Than You:
“Look, I am 37 years old, I’ve been around longer than you have and I know from experience that you do not need to take any type of medication. You are just too young.”
Eh. I’m 32 and I’m pretty sure my doctor’s exact words were: “Take this medication and if you don’t, your risk for stroke and heart attack are highly likely.”
Maybe your PhD in Underwater Basketweaving didn’t touch on cardiovascular health? I’m not sure.
6. People Who Cannot Celebrate Others’ Successes:
This one has to top the charts for me. What is greater than seeing people in your life succeed? And, I’m not talking financially, I am talking about succeeding in absolutely whatever it may be that you are passionate about. Remember, success is relative and has different meanings for different people, but if you see a friend or family member truly excited about strides they’ve made in their personal or professional life— ACKNOWLEDGE IT! I cannot tell you how many grown adults cannot, for the life of them, celebrate those around them. The funny thing is, it actually speaks volumes about their character. So, when you find yourself faced with someone who cannot, under any circumstance, celebrate you for whatever achievement you’ve made— let that person go. Or, if you can’t let them go, realize that this isn’t about you, this is about THEM. Be proud of the positive in your life- life’s too short not to.
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That about wraps up my “6 people you don’t need in your life.” If you found your nodding your head to any of the above, let em’ go! I’ve finally figured it out: While I believe that people are capable of changing, I’ve realized that not all people are willing to make the necessary changes to better themselves and the relationships in their life. You can only try so hard before you find yourself banging your head against the wall, or mapping out an escape plan from a lunch with a friend who’s telling you everything wrong about your life, all the great about their life, while smoke starts steaming out your ears.
Smoke coming out of your ears isn’t healthy– nor are these relationships. So, as I said, let em’ go and enjoy the greatness THAT IS YOU!!!
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