When I got married, I was dead set on details. What centerpieces would we have? How many bridesmaids/groomsmen should we have? Do we choose one flower girl and one ring bearer or ‘flower boy’ (as I mistakenly kept calling my little cousin). How in the world do you pick a Maid of Honor? It was all about the planning and making sure there was food for people to eat, matching centerpieces for the tables, cake & flower deliveries, and enough alcohol to quench the thirst of my wild Canadian family.
Justin and I equally decided to get engaged in September 2006. We were eating dinner at the Olive Garden (‘It was lovely….’) and decided that seeing we had just uprooted to San Diego from Phoenix that it might be a great idea to get MARRIED!
We finished our food and were off to the jewelry store. We had no money saved up to buy a ring. We purchased it the most irresponsibly way you possibly can when it comes to jewelry—CREDIT. Regardless, out of all the purchases I’ve ever made in my life with a credit card/line of credit, it’s the only one I do not in the slightest bit regret. (If you were wondering what one purchase I regret buying on credit…? Well, that would be a sewing machine. I took a sleeping pill one night and apparently drove to Wal-Mart of all places and decided I needed a sewing machine. I woke up the next morning with Justin questioning me as to why there was a sewing machine on the coffee table…I was just as puzzled as he was.) **I have never sewed a stitch in my adult life**
Regardless, this weekend I came to a wedding in the smallest of ‘small towns’ with a population of 500 (during the summer) and 200 (during the winter). Back in the day I would have thought getting married in a city like this was for the birds. There is nothing here! However, that’s what made this weekend so intimate, so special, so…perfect.
We went off-road four wheeling up and down every mountain in Silverton, Colorado on Friday and the man, Rick, that did our tour—he was fantastic. Haydan asked me ‘Mom, is Rick your new best friend? You seem to really like him.’ She was right. He, and everyone in their quaint little city reminded me of the people from where I was raised—Canada. People are friendly, they talk to you, they say ‘hello‘ and ask you how you are…while genuinely caring to hear the answer. The place is fantastic and I am pretty sure that I am meant to live in a small city where everyone knows your name and your shoe size. If you are reading this and you know me personally, you are probably nodding your head.
My brother-in-law, Jerod, and his new bride, Emily, made their wedding simple. However, it wasn’t simple in the way that I anticipated it to be. It was full of heart, full of love, full of new people who didn’t know each other, ones whom were meeting for the first time. Kids running around playing, adults drinking and laughing. I’d never met Emily’s (the bride) side of the family but it felt like we had all known each other for decades. As with all weddings, a couple things went wrong here and there and we ganged together and fixed them while laughing along. The morning of the wedding we realized that the brides bouquet that we were responsible for…well, it died. So, my bad ass mamma-jamma mother-in-law and I re-created a new one in addition to some flower arrangements for the altar. We had a blast and we made it work. It turned out stunning. However, not as stunning as the bride.
To be honest, I wasn’t super stoked about having to fly out of state for a wedding. Weddings are stressful enough but attending one out of state can really get you rattled. To be honest, I cannot think of a time where I felt that relaxed and genuinely happy in a long time. This special occasion turned into a relaxing getaway for my family.
Wedding don’t need to be all glitz and glamour. It’s the unique touches and ways that are special to the bride and groom that make these events special. It’s the ‘Wedding 4 Wheel Drive Excursion’, it’s the rehearsal dinner in a bar called ‘Handlebars’ where I sat at the bar and had a shot with the owner, it’s the minister who took her time after the ceremony to personally pray with me for an upcoming surgery per my mother-in-law’s request, it’s the online wedding gown found at a discounted price, it’s seeing my brother-in-law, whom I honest to God love like my own blood, smiling ear to ear, truly happy, content, and peaceful.
This weekend reminded me of a lot of things. Weddings don’t need to be 200+ people and over the top with a planner and your Pomeranian carrying a ring down the aisle on its back. Weddings are nothing but a symbolic measure of dedication and proclamation of your love. This quaint little destination wedding with a guest list of 16 reminded me that love isn’t tangible, love doesn’t require a 4 carat diamond ring or a horse drawn carriage….love is free…
Sitting in a church built in the 1800’s watching two people dedicate themselves to one of the most intense and crazy journeys of a lifetime is a magical experience to witness and be part of. Watching as my new sister-in-law struggled through her vows whilst wiping tears—-It reinstated the meaning of marriage, the meaning of love, a reminder of why we take the plunge. The journey is amazing, wild, sometimes rocky, over the top fun, and so, so incredibly worth it!
Congrats Emily & Jerod!
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